The most important thing that you can do as a parent is to love your kid. Tell him that you love him for who he is, not what he does. A young child should not have to deal with the pressure of having to perform in order to earn your love. In the classroom, I see kids who are terrified if they do not do well on a spelling test because they do not want to disappoint their parents. I am all for having high expectations and setting high standards, but make sure that your kid knows that you love him no matter what.
While speaking of expectations, know that whatever expectations you communicate to your kids will probably come true. Young children believe their parents. If you call him a dummy, chances are he will go out of his way to prove you right. If you show him that you do not think he is capable by doing everything for him, he will again meet your expectations. However, by telling him that he is smart, good, funny, loved, etc. you enable him to do so much more.
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